Scared? At first, heck yeh!

FOLLOW Elaine Cooper YBLC Mom, Gramma Author, Coach, Real Foodist, Speaker, Blogger, &  Aeroponic Urban Gardener living a saucy seasoned midlife taking the “Hassle out of Healthy” .

Where Am I? YBLExpo Ottawa

          May 14 2016

Resist your fear; fear will never lead to you a positive end. Go for your faith and what you believe.
T. D. Jakes

Scared? At first, heck yeh! That’s me behind that helmet if you hadn’t guessed.

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By the time I took this picture I was feeling more comfortable sitting on the back of a sport motorcycle. This was our mode of travel when out and about from the RV on my epic month-long bucket list road trip.

I grew up with a not-so-healthy fear of being alone topped off with a huge lack of self-confidence which spills out now and again even now as an adult.

Newly married I was terrified that I couldn’t carry on if something happened to take the ones I loved away and…

… the something happened. Twice!

Our family has been torn apart with grief and the loss of  two much loved husbands & devoted Dads.

“You are so brave”. “You’ll get over it”. People mean well, brave is NOT what I felt. To live with this was like I needed to carry a shovel on my back just so I would be ready to dig out of the next pile of crap. I am going way out of my comfort zone putting this out there for you to see.

I chose to focus on the one thing that hadn’t changed … living with intention taking nothing for granted.  That fear of carrying on buried …to continue to the best of my ability despite my “mess” of grief, overwhelm, and exhaustion.


ARTICLE from business coach Suzanne Evans

Pain is inevitable.

It feels like it takes forever. It feels the pain will never end. Your emotional brain tells you this will always be hard. Always hurt. Always be wrong.

Your rational brain tells you that whatever is wrong will be ok. Whatever is happening will eventually be over.

So whether it is a relationship or business bust … an employee leaves… a long term client storms away… a person you love hurts you… you make a big mistake… everything stops working… someone leaves… you fail….. it fails… cash is strapped… you get sick… your feelings get hurt… all you hear are no’s… you just can’t get it right.

It hurts pretty bad in the moment.

1) Know that pain will not kill you. It actually informs you, educates you, and prepares you. Think about it. Without the pain you wouldn’t notice what is wonderful all around you. No one can really taste joy without experiencing deep pain.

2) This too shall pass. Nothing lasts forever.  The hurt will become a story. The scab will become a scar to simply remind you that you went through that. It is always with you, but no longer raw.

3) You need both. In business and life you need the wins and the losses. You need the hard and the easy. Life and business requires a balance and that balance comes through a deep well of experiences. Be ready instead of afraid of the tough spots. It’s really a blessing. It’s a teacher. It guides you on your weak spots and encourages you to strengthen them.

4) Share. My failures and hardships are much more interesting than what I did right. What works is simple. People see the success and they see the rewards. The pain and the mess ups are difficult to deal with. It’s ok.  Know that the world truly loves vulnerable people. And the world loves to help someone back up when they are down.

5) Confidence comes through despair. Every time we go through something hard in our business or our life we get a little more self confidence. Every time we end up on the other side of a hard time or a failure we realize we are stronger than we thought. We are wiser than we thought. We are more generous and strategic and sharp and courageous than we thought. It’s a little badge to add to the sash that says, “Look at what I have overcome.”

Pain is fear. Nothing more. Nothing less.

I have been a failure.
I have been embarrassed.
I have been hurt.
I have been worried.
I have been afraid.
I have been wrong.
I have been sad.
I have been a bust.

It has been painful…

And I’m here and the better for it. You will be too.

About: Suzanne Evans owner and founder of Suzanne Evans Coaching, LLC, is the tell-it-like-it-is, no fluff boss of business building. She supports, coaches, and teaches over 30,000 women enrolled in her wealth and business building programs. Having surpassed the seven figure mark herself in just over three years, she’s coached her private clients to total revenues exceeding 8 million dollars. In 2011, she launched her Global Impact Project, a not for profit serving women worldwide in education, entrepreneurship, and equality.


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I left this one “lucky” flower. Hmmm, I wonder if there is a 4-leaf clover in there?

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Neat ways to use dandelion in your meal prep.***Please be sure to pick ONLY greens or flowers where you know the area is free of any kind of toxic treatment. Beware of roadsides!

  1. Sautéed Greens and Garlic

With their rich mineral and vitamin content, dandelion greens are a healthy addition to any meal. Sautéing with garlic (or ginger or capers) adds flavour and gets rid of some of the bitterness they are famous for. Blanching them by immersing them in boiling water for 20 to 30 seconds also helps. The very mature leaves are the most bitter. If they are already in full flower they can be too unpleasant for some.

  1. Dandelion Pumpkin Seed Pesto

This nutritious pesto is perfect for a simple pasta, sandwich spread or veggie dip. Because the dandelion greens have a slight bite, the toasted pumpkin seeds (even sunflower or sesame), lemon juice and parmesan add variety and balance. Eliminate parmesan if avoiding dairy.

  1. Herbal Vinegar

This herbal vinegar is a nice change for salads, in dressings, soups, stews and sauces. Infuse dandelion flowers in apple cider vinegar for four weeks, strain and store in a dark place for up to twelve months.

BE CREATIVE!

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…no it’s not what you think. I’m in love with rocks!

I got a little woo hiking on the red rocks of Sedona Arizona recently. I couldn’t help it with the sheer beauty surrounding me. The path was rough in some places and I had to pay attention to where I was making my next steps. Otherwise, I was taking it all in, the view, the beautiful day and feeling awestruck with the massive rock peaks.
Three months ago I mentioned to a friend I had been thinking of doing a road trip at some point exploring farmer’s markets around the country to meet the people and visit the places our food is grown in. Then I would share my experiences by writing & posting blog articles for others to enjoy.I never imagined that from that conversation, I would be tromping around at the Hoover Dam, filming a rare Grand Canyon rainbow, then perching on top of the red rocks in the Vortex of Sedona AZ  and getting there by using the less travelled roads. Lots to cross off my bucket list!

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Grand Canyon Rainbow

Ok, so what’s the big deal? Well, a few years ago diagnosed with fibromyalgia and wanting to stay under the covers with overwhelming pain and exhaustion, I couldn’t have imagined venturing out on a road for a week. A month? No way. I wouldn’t even have entertained the thought. How would I manage to keep from rocking the inflammatory boat that would drown me with fibromyalgia flare ups?

This time, my stinkin’ thinkin’ got booted out the door. I stopped thinking so much about it and grabbed the invitation for the opportunity to travel. No reason not to make this year mine, celebrating personal and professional milestones. Scared? Oh yeh. ’cause part of that time I would be travelling on the back of a sport motorcycle. With that visual in mind, I’ll tell you more next time.

A little confession here. I tried to ignore my birthday last year as I turned “60”! The very first time I experienced an “Ugh another birthday!” moment. This year I am making up for it and holding my own event. (Another one crossed off the bucket list)!

If you are in the Ottawa area I want to invite you to my birthday & business bash “Your Better Living Expo being held June 4 from 10- 4, benefitting  the Odawa Youth Social Enterprise program. Fun, Food, Education & Awareness for “better living” from the ground up. See you there?  Advance tickets are free. I will save you a hug!

See details and get your TICKETS here

Now, go on a treasure hunt of your own to find a nutrient dense food you haven’t tried yet. I’d love to hear what you chose.

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“BE CREATIVE” with this from my collection…

FIT FAST FUN RECIPES ~ CITRUS LIMEADE

The flavours of sweet honeydew, tart lime, and juicy red grapes combine in this smooth drink. A simple refreshing switch from sweet sodas and iced tea. Citrus fruits are rich in vitamin C and other healthful nutrients such as glutathione.

INGREDIENTS 

  • 1 small honeydew melon
  • ½ cup seedless red grapes
  • ½ cup freshly squeezed lime juice
  • ½ cup honey
  • 2 cups sparkling water

DIRECTIONS

  1. Cut melon in half, scoop out seeds, peel, nd cut into 1-inch cubes. Wash grapes well and remove stems. Freeze melon and grapes for one hour.
  2. Combine frozen melon and grapes with lime juice and honey in a blender. Puree until smooth, adding water as needed. Serve immediately.

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FOLLOW Elaine Cooper YBLC  coach, speaker, blogger, cook, passionate urban gardener

          Volume 2 #6 April 15 2015

The tragedy in life doesn’t lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy lies in having no goal to reach- author Benjamin Mays

Ever been called names?  As a child we may not have the words handy to even out the hurt with standing up for ourselves. Is the bully following the crowd, because it makes them feel good? Or doing it because it is the ONLY way they feel strong? Anyway you look at it bullying is wrong. Knowledge is powerful for the abused as well as the abuser. So is the support from others and the power of forgiveness to move on.

As an adult do those words echo from the playground? What have you discovered that has taken you from the pain for letting go?


Now that spring has finally sprung making way for warmer days and outdoor activities, what are the signs that you look for? Here are two of mine. Crocuses at my Mom’s pushing their heads out into the sunshine. And now the ice going out of the Ottawa River.

Spring is sprung!

Spring is sprung!

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Happy Spring!

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RECIPE for you from …

Cooper’s Kitchen    


Herbed Hummus

 Much lower in fat than traditional hummus use as a veggie dip, spread, or topping.

 Ingredients·

  • 1 cup fresh basil leaves lightly packed
  •    ½ cup tarragon leaves, lightly packed
  •    4 cups garbanzo (chickpeas) drained and rinsed
  • 1 cup vegetable broth
  • ½ cup fresh flat-leaf parsley, lightly packedjuice of 1 lemon
  • 2 tbsp. toasted sesame seed
  • 2 cloves garlic¼ cup chopped chives

Directions

1.     Rinse and pat basil and tarragon leaves dry, and chop coarsely. Transfer to food processor with beans, broth, parsley, lemon juice, sesame seeds, and garlic.

2.     Process until creamy or desired consistency. Stir in chives. Store in sealed container in refrigerator. Will keep for 4 days.

Elaine’s Note:

I like to use my fresh or frozen pesto to flavour this hummus as an alternative to using fresh herbs. This makes a large recipe you may want to ½ the ingredients. Do not freeze.

Picked these from my  aeroponic Tower Garden.Herb Medley      GF DF Vegetarian

Be Creative!

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how I increased my energy (and you can too)

Volume 1 Issue 7 2014

What a gorgeous weekend of bright sunshine, birthday celebrations for a grandson, and tip-toeing through the tulips in Ottawa. Raising three daughters and having 3 grandgirls having a little grandson is so different.  He loved the flowers but the wheelbarrows were his favourite!

DiDi and me

DiDi and me

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Feature Article

While I am now a health coach and understand how to increase my energy and lose weight safely without drastic measures, it wasn’t always that way.

Growing up, I struggled with my weight. I remember how it made me lack  confidence and uncomfortable with what others my age thought of me. Later on, as an adult, allergies, hypoglycemia then fibromyalgia raised their ugly heads.

I finally discovered that the problem wasn’t me. It was a lack of information about the underlying causes. Not one of the diet or nutrition books I read mentioned how I could be sensitive to certain foods.  And that these foods were causing inflammation and even weight loss resistance.

I thought I was eating healthy foods, but what I learned is that some of the foods I was eating were actually viewed as toxins by my body.

I know how frustrating it is to go on a detox diet and be hungry. Want to transform the way you look and think about food?  I am going to show you a way to think about your body and food with delicious recipes that will satisfy your taste  buds. Continue reading

who you are and who you can become

Volume 1 Issue 6 2014

There is empowerment discovering who you are and who you become going through change. You may cringe with a mighty mix of emotions when someone says “You are so courageous” or ” You are so brave”.  Anger, sadness, disbelief, emptiness, fatigue are just some of  the ingredients to discover what brave means.  Feeling anything but brave,  instead scared to death how to manage it all?

To move forward toward healing there will come a moment when you know you wouldn’t ever want to go back. Is it hard ? Hell yes!  Maybe you are asking why this was to be your path when you feel like everyone else is the lucky one and you are all alone with no obvious answers.

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What if…….. you looked at it like this?


A child is given a pizza size chocolate chip cookie.   You decide to use this as a teaching tool telling her/him that sharing with friends would be a nice thing to do. Reluctantly they give 1 piece, then 2 then 3 and so on until there is a moderate size left they can easily handle.  Happy faces are smiling all around and lesson learned.

Ok, ok I know they probably kicked up a fuss ’cause they  wanted to eat the whole thing by themselves!  What about using this for yourself as a metaphor  for going through change?  You don’t have to do this alone. Share with someone you trust & build support step by step for living a happier, healthier life  & becoming the YOU you want to be. Makes the task alot less daunting.


(Couldn’t resist posting this recipe after writing that! )

FEATURE ARTICLE                  Another RECIPE from Cooper’s Kitchen (that’s me!)

Gluten free Pizza Crust


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Copyright Your Better Living Coach 2014


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we all have one of these

Without these we would not be on this planet.  Of course, I am talking about our mothers! This past Mother’s Day my Mom also celebrated a birthday. What does my mother say when asked what she would like to do for the day? “Nothing”!  I warned her that if she was leaving it up to me, it would be “game on” for a road trip stopping wherever and whenever.

 Mom & I Me and Mom at the “dam”. 

Mother Nature supplied the gorgeous blue sky and sunshine.  Our stops were numerous.  The first, a favourite spot at the “dam” on the river where our family used to spend a summer Sunday, then the family farmstead(new owners) where she was born.  She had a grand time sharing her memories ( fishing for trout in the brook) and seeing how things had changed, like the pine tree her Dad planted, that now dwarfs the shed.  We even ending up chatting with neighbours she had known since a child.

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Brook at Fairfax

 

 

 

 

 

The greatest gifts don’t necessarily come from shopping the malls or the internet.

Ending up the day with a nice meal together was the best Mother’s Day/birthday present I could have given her. You see, Mom has fibromyalgia & macular degeneration (legally blind). The opportunity to be out and about on such a gorgeous day was ………….priceless!


I still chuckle thinking about a recent conversation. Talking about doing a detox, I got asked if I had “healed myself” with my blender! Well, yes and no.  That wasn’t the only thing I have done to manage my health. READ MORE here


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FEATURE ARTICLE

RECIPE from Cooper’s Kitchen (that’s me!)

Crispy Skinned Salmon with Gingery Greens  (for 4)