Stopping The Pain…You didn’t drop in and I just had to

        YBLC BLOG Volume 5  September 24, 2016

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“Some of my feelings have been stored so long they have freezer burn”. Melody Beattie author of “The Language of Letting Go”.

This saying really spoke to me…

If you are struggling to find clarity with something in your life personally or professionally and it is not available to you today, which makes sense to you? Trust that things will become clear, OR struggle to gain perspective before it is time? Believe me, the latter will make you BSC (bat-sh-t crazy)!

When the Beast of fibromyalgia is pelting me with pain, is there a lesson? Pain hurts. It does not feel good. In the past, I tended to want to be in control & figure it all out. It wasn’t a conscious decision.

Today, I remind myself that it will only hurt for a while, to get off my own case.

I look around and see what were the triggers that let the Beast out to harass me. The weather? (I am the Great Canadian Weather Weenie.) Working like a mad woman with no thought to my well-being? (Have to keep firing her!) I don’t always know what the source is. I have learned to be ok with that and I push back when my boundaries are crossed, no guilt.

After being widowed for the second time, I kept hearing the Beatles song “Let it Be”. I can visualize, even now, where I was and what I was doing when it started playing…with family, in the car, coming out of a restaurant in Ottawa before I moved here.

How things in my life would work out sure wasn’t clear. Sensitive is my middle name. I was driving myself crazy agonizing over the“I should” and “I shouldn’t” and “what if’s”. That was on top of an overload of grief. I was used to working things out personally by myself and professionally with my husband, who was also my business partner. Taking the offer of business mentorship from a friend and savvy entrepreneur was my first best step that year.

In hindsight, I know the “Beast” originated from years of me not respecting my boundaries, being & doing everything for everybody and looking for approval from people who had none to give.

For a very long time I hung onto the inevitable painful feelings that are a part of growing past grief towards acceptance, healing and reviving to the other side. I have gotten to know myself much better throughout this process and am able to look at my life and realize many more gifts I received along the way.

It takes COURAGE to be willing to stand still and feel what you must feel. Take responsibility for your own self-care and watch how the flow and freedom of healing energy unleashes your potential! If you haven’t already, you will learn what the meaning of courage truly is. September is pain awareness month. Stop the pain.

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Elaine Cooper YBLC Mom, Gramma, Author, Real Foodist, Speaker, Blogger, &  Aeroponic Urban Gardener

Taking the hassle OUT of healthy.


My Favourite Things in COOPER’S KITCHEN  

You didn’t drop in and I just had to. Ok, ok I ate the whole thing myself. Nope didn’t share even a bite!

Of course, not all at once as too much sugar and I don’t dance very well.

But you’ve got to try these brownies! or anything from this company located in Coaticook not far from my home town of Ayer’s Cliff.  Not this is what I call a time saver and it isn’t made by Betty “you know who”. Want gluten-free that tastes good? This prepared mix is free of potato starch, white flours, and additives. Just plain YUM and way healthier than most with dense whole grains (no wheat) like amaranth, quinoa and buckwheat.   Watch video

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The world belongs to those with the most energy. -Alexis de Tocqueville

My Dad was strong of character, physically active and a self-made entrepreneur. I blame him for my independent entrepreneurial streak!

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Happy Father’s Day Dad

Dad was determined to wear the same grey suit (despite looking blue in little pic) both times he gave me away…20 years apart! He was darned proud that it still fit. Though he did wear a new shirt and tie! Thinking of you not just on Father’s Day, always.


 

ARTICLE Snack Attack

There’s no denying that everyone, at one time or another, has had a snack attack. Views on snacking differ. Some feel that snacking is bad and that eating between meals leads to weight gain. Others believe that eating many small meals and snacks throughout the day is healthy for maintaining energy levels and optimal weight. If there were one way of snacking that was right for everyone, we would all be doing it!

To alleviate snack attack guilt, try to understand why you are snacking and what snacks work best for your body. Perhaps you snack because your daily diet is missing nutrition, or because you are eating too little at meals. You might be snacking to soothe jangled nerves when you are emotional, or to entertain yourself when you are bored. Whatever your reason, acknowledge it and start thinking about how to create a life that is nourishing and truly satisfying.

Although snacks are no substitute for loving your life, they can be great energy boosters. Many convenient snack foods are highly processed and full of chemicals, additives, damaging fats and refined sugars. When a snack attack hits you, try foods that are filling and satisfying, but also nutritious. Here are some tips:

  • Snack on things that don’t come in a plastic wrapper or a box, like fresh fruit, leftover vegetables or rice cakes with almond butter and fruit spread.
  • Make your own signature trail mix, organic hot chocolate made with almond milk sweetened with agave nectar, or blue corn chips with hummus.

You can also try “upgrading”:

  • If you are craving something crunchy, upgrade from potato chips to raw carrots, apples or whole grain crackers.
  • If you are craving a candy bar, upgrade to a handful of nuts and dried fruit.
  • Instead of a cup of coffee, upgrade to green tea.

Instead of ice cream, upgrade to applesauce with cinnamon.

Upgraded snacks are high in nutrition and give you a greater sense of satiety and satisfaction; you won’t feel physically or psychologically deprived, and you’ll have plenty of energy to sustain your activities for hours.

Snacking is enjoyable and there is a wide variety of healthful goodies for whatever you’re craving, be it sweet, crunchy, salty, creamy or spicy. Dive in, be creative and enjoy your snack attack.

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A healthy lifestyle is the key to longevity, optimum weight, abundant energy and balance. By using fruit to satisfy our taste for sweetness, we can leave behind the use of chemical, processed and refined sweeteners. Fruits are easy to digest, are cleansing and cooling and are great for those who are overstressed and overheated from excessive mental strain or hot climates. Fruits are filled with fibre and liver stimulants, which act as natural, gentle laxatives. Whenever possible, buy fresh, locally grown fruit as opposed to imported fruits shipped from far-off places. This keeps you eating in season, and more in harmony with your environment and climate.

Eating raw fruit in summer months is highly cooling, while baking it in the winter months neutralizes the cooling effect. Fruit in the form of juice is a great choice for cleansing the body, but be aware that juice rapidly raises blood sugar levels, leading to an energy crash soon after. Frozen, whole, puréed or juiced fruit can make great summertime cool-down treats. Try frozen grapes, banana-coconut smoothie popsicles or lime juice ice-cubes in iced tea!

Whether you are having fresh fruit for a light early morning breakfast, a midday snack or evening treat, enjoy nature’s sweetness and whenever possible buy organic. Here are a few summer fruits and their health benefits:

Apricots: Great for lung conditions and asthma; used to help treat anemia due to their high copper and cobalt content.

Bananas: Help to lubricate the intestines, treat ulcers, detoxify the body and manage sugar cravings; are rich in potassium (which helps hypertension).

Cherries: Slightly warming in nature; increase overall body energy, remedy arthritis and rheumatism and are rich in iron, which improves the blood.

Grapefruits: Treat poor digestion, increase appetite during pregnancy, alleviate intestinal gas and reduce mucus conditions of the lungs.

Papayas: Tone the stomach, act as digestive aid, moisten the lungs and alleviate coughing; contain carpaine, an anti-tumor compound.

Raspberries: Benefit the liver and kidneys, cleanse blood of toxins, regulate menstrual cycles, treat anemia and can promote labor at childbirth.

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COOPER’S KITCHEN       Fit Fast Fun Recipes

Kombucha is loaded with probiotics that are beneficial to gut health. A fermented beverage, it is fresh with just the right amount of zing. (That is unless you leave it too long. Then you have a fresh vinegar for salads!) Costly in health food stores? Pennies when you make it yourself.

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What is YOUR why? Is it your intention to “get with it” and make adjustments to your eating and lifestyle?  Have you received recommendations to make changes from your doctor with the warning, “or else”? How do you make it happen in your life?  No need to feel overwhelmed or deprived. Turn your intention into action steps.

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Scared? At first, heck yeh!

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Resist your fear; fear will never lead to you a positive end. Go for your faith and what you believe.
T. D. Jakes

Scared? At first, heck yeh! That’s me behind that helmet if you hadn’t guessed.

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By the time I took this picture I was feeling more comfortable sitting on the back of a sport motorcycle. This was our mode of travel when out and about from the RV on my epic month-long bucket list road trip.

I grew up with a not-so-healthy fear of being alone topped off with a huge lack of self-confidence which spills out now and again even now as an adult.

Newly married I was terrified that I couldn’t carry on if something happened to take the ones I loved away and…

… the something happened. Twice!

Our family has been torn apart with grief and the loss of  two much loved husbands & devoted Dads.

“You are so brave”. “You’ll get over it”. People mean well, brave is NOT what I felt. To live with this was like I needed to carry a shovel on my back just so I would be ready to dig out of the next pile of crap. I am going way out of my comfort zone putting this out there for you to see.

I chose to focus on the one thing that hadn’t changed … living with intention taking nothing for granted.  That fear of carrying on buried …to continue to the best of my ability despite my “mess” of grief, overwhelm, and exhaustion.


ARTICLE from business coach Suzanne Evans

Pain is inevitable.

It feels like it takes forever. It feels the pain will never end. Your emotional brain tells you this will always be hard. Always hurt. Always be wrong.

Your rational brain tells you that whatever is wrong will be ok. Whatever is happening will eventually be over.

So whether it is a relationship or business bust … an employee leaves… a long term client storms away… a person you love hurts you… you make a big mistake… everything stops working… someone leaves… you fail….. it fails… cash is strapped… you get sick… your feelings get hurt… all you hear are no’s… you just can’t get it right.

It hurts pretty bad in the moment.

1) Know that pain will not kill you. It actually informs you, educates you, and prepares you. Think about it. Without the pain you wouldn’t notice what is wonderful all around you. No one can really taste joy without experiencing deep pain.

2) This too shall pass. Nothing lasts forever.  The hurt will become a story. The scab will become a scar to simply remind you that you went through that. It is always with you, but no longer raw.

3) You need both. In business and life you need the wins and the losses. You need the hard and the easy. Life and business requires a balance and that balance comes through a deep well of experiences. Be ready instead of afraid of the tough spots. It’s really a blessing. It’s a teacher. It guides you on your weak spots and encourages you to strengthen them.

4) Share. My failures and hardships are much more interesting than what I did right. What works is simple. People see the success and they see the rewards. The pain and the mess ups are difficult to deal with. It’s ok.  Know that the world truly loves vulnerable people. And the world loves to help someone back up when they are down.

5) Confidence comes through despair. Every time we go through something hard in our business or our life we get a little more self confidence. Every time we end up on the other side of a hard time or a failure we realize we are stronger than we thought. We are wiser than we thought. We are more generous and strategic and sharp and courageous than we thought. It’s a little badge to add to the sash that says, “Look at what I have overcome.”

Pain is fear. Nothing more. Nothing less.

I have been a failure.
I have been embarrassed.
I have been hurt.
I have been worried.
I have been afraid.
I have been wrong.
I have been sad.
I have been a bust.

It has been painful…

And I’m here and the better for it. You will be too.

About: Suzanne Evans owner and founder of Suzanne Evans Coaching, LLC, is the tell-it-like-it-is, no fluff boss of business building. She supports, coaches, and teaches over 30,000 women enrolled in her wealth and business building programs. Having surpassed the seven figure mark herself in just over three years, she’s coached her private clients to total revenues exceeding 8 million dollars. In 2011, she launched her Global Impact Project, a not for profit serving women worldwide in education, entrepreneurship, and equality.


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I left this one “lucky” flower. Hmmm, I wonder if there is a 4-leaf clover in there?

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Neat ways to use dandelion in your meal prep.***Please be sure to pick ONLY greens or flowers where you know the area is free of any kind of toxic treatment. Beware of roadsides!

  1. Sautéed Greens and Garlic

With their rich mineral and vitamin content, dandelion greens are a healthy addition to any meal. Sautéing with garlic (or ginger or capers) adds flavour and gets rid of some of the bitterness they are famous for. Blanching them by immersing them in boiling water for 20 to 30 seconds also helps. The very mature leaves are the most bitter. If they are already in full flower they can be too unpleasant for some.

  1. Dandelion Pumpkin Seed Pesto

This nutritious pesto is perfect for a simple pasta, sandwich spread or veggie dip. Because the dandelion greens have a slight bite, the toasted pumpkin seeds (even sunflower or sesame), lemon juice and parmesan add variety and balance. Eliminate parmesan if avoiding dairy.

  1. Herbal Vinegar

This herbal vinegar is a nice change for salads, in dressings, soups, stews and sauces. Infuse dandelion flowers in apple cider vinegar for four weeks, strain and store in a dark place for up to twelve months.

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What is YOUR why?
Is it your intention to “get with it” and eat cleaner? Received recommendations from your doctor for changing your eating habits ? No need to feel overwhelmed or deprived. Turn your intention into action steps.


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