Stopping The Pain…You didn’t drop in and I just had to

        YBLC BLOG Volume 5  September 24, 2016


“Some of my feelings have been stored so long they have freezer burn”. Melody Beattie author of “The Language of Letting Go”.

This saying really spoke to me…

If you are struggling to find clarity with something in your life personally or professionally and it is not available to you today, which makes sense to you? Trust that things will become clear, OR struggle to gain perspective before it is time? Believe me, the latter will make you BSC (bat-sh-t crazy)!

When the Beast of fibromyalgia is pelting me with pain, is there a lesson? Pain hurts. It does not feel good. In the past, I tended to want to be in control & figure it all out. It wasn’t a conscious decision.

Today, I remind myself that it will only hurt for a while, to get off my own case.

I look around and see what were the triggers that let the Beast out to harass me. The weather? (I am the Great Canadian Weather Weenie.) Working like a mad woman with no thought to my well-being? (Have to keep firing her!) I don’t always know what the source is. I have learned to be ok with that and I push back when my boundaries are crossed, no guilt.

After being widowed for the second time, I kept hearing the Beatles song “Let it Be”. I can visualize, even now, where I was and what I was doing when it started playing…with family, in the car, coming out of a restaurant in Ottawa before I moved here.

How things in my life would work out sure wasn’t clear. Sensitive is my middle name. I was driving myself crazy agonizing over the“I should” and “I shouldn’t” and “what if’s”. That was on top of an overload of grief. I was used to working things out personally by myself and professionally with my husband, who was also my business partner. Taking the offer of business mentorship from a friend and savvy entrepreneur was my first best step that year.

In hindsight, I know the “Beast” originated from years of me not respecting my boundaries, being & doing everything for everybody and looking for approval from people who had none to give.

For a very long time I hung onto the inevitable painful feelings that are a part of growing past grief towards acceptance, healing and reviving to the other side. I have gotten to know myself much better throughout this process and am able to look at my life and realize many more gifts I received along the way.

It takes COURAGE to be willing to stand still and feel what you must feel. Take responsibility for your own self-care and watch how the flow and freedom of healing energy unleashes your potential! If you haven’t already, you will learn what the meaning of courage truly is. September is pain awareness month. Stop the pain.



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Elaine Cooper YBLC Mom, Gramma, Author, Real Foodist, Speaker, Blogger, &  Aeroponic Urban Gardener

Taking the hassle OUT of healthy.

My Favourite Things in COOPER’S KITCHEN  

You didn’t drop in and I just had to. Ok, ok I ate the whole thing myself. Nope didn’t share even a bite!

Of course, not all at once as too much sugar and I don’t dance very well.

But you’ve got to try these brownies! or anything from this company located in Coaticook not far from my home town of Ayer’s Cliff.  Not this is what I call a time saver and it isn’t made by Betty “you know who”. Want gluten-free that tastes good? This prepared mix is free of potato starch, white flours, and additives. Just plain YUM and way healthier than most with dense whole grains (no wheat) like amaranth, quinoa and buckwheat.   Watch video


Tell me YOUR why? Is it your intention to make adjustments to your eating and lifestyle to increase your personal and professional performance? Struggling to make it happen in your household? Have you received recommendations to make changes from your doctor with the warning, “or else”?  No need to feel overwhelmed or deprived. Turn your intention into action steps. Share with me your why for making healthier choices in your life.

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…no it’s not what you think. I’m in love with rocks!

I got a little woo hiking on the red rocks of Sedona Arizona recently. I couldn’t help it with the sheer beauty surrounding me. The path was rough in some places and I had to pay attention to where I was making my next steps. Otherwise, I was taking it all in, the view, the beautiful day and feeling awestruck with the massive rock peaks.
Three months ago I mentioned to a friend I had been thinking of doing a road trip at some point exploring farmer’s markets around the country to meet the people and visit the places our food is grown in. Then I would share my experiences by writing & posting blog articles for others to enjoy.I never imagined that from that conversation, I would be tromping around at the Hoover Dam, filming a rare Grand Canyon rainbow, then perching on top of the red rocks in the Vortex of Sedona AZ  and getting there by using the less travelled roads. Lots to cross off my bucket list!


Grand Canyon Rainbow

Ok, so what’s the big deal? Well, a few years ago diagnosed with fibromyalgia and wanting to stay under the covers with overwhelming pain and exhaustion, I couldn’t have imagined venturing out on a road for a week. A month? No way. I wouldn’t even have entertained the thought. How would I manage to keep from rocking the inflammatory boat that would drown me with fibromyalgia flare ups?

This time, my stinkin’ thinkin’ got booted out the door. I stopped thinking so much about it and grabbed the invitation for the opportunity to travel. No reason not to make this year mine, celebrating personal and professional milestones. Scared? Oh yeh. ’cause part of that time I would be travelling on the back of a sport motorcycle. With that visual in mind, I’ll tell you more next time.

A little confession here. I tried to ignore my birthday last year as I turned “60”! The very first time I experienced an “Ugh another birthday!” moment. This year I am making up for it and holding my own event. (Another one crossed off the bucket list)!

If you are in the Ottawa area I want to invite you to my birthday & business bash “Your Better Living Expo being held June 4 from 10- 4, benefitting  the Odawa Youth Social Enterprise program. Fun, Food, Education & Awareness for “better living” from the ground up. See you there?  Advance tickets are free. I will save you a hug!

See details and get your TICKETS here

Now, go on a treasure hunt of your own to find a nutrient dense food you haven’t tried yet. I’d love to hear what you chose.

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“BE CREATIVE” with this from my collection…


The flavours of sweet honeydew, tart lime, and juicy red grapes combine in this smooth drink. A simple refreshing switch from sweet sodas and iced tea. Citrus fruits are rich in vitamin C and other healthful nutrients such as glutathione.


  • 1 small honeydew melon
  • ½ cup seedless red grapes
  • ½ cup freshly squeezed lime juice
  • ½ cup honey
  • 2 cups sparkling water


  1. Cut melon in half, scoop out seeds, peel, nd cut into 1-inch cubes. Wash grapes well and remove stems. Freeze melon and grapes for one hour.
  2. Combine frozen melon and grapes with lime juice and honey in a blender. Puree until smooth, adding water as needed. Serve immediately.

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I dare to disagree


Volume 1 Issue 10  June 11 2014

One of the greatest writers and poets that ever lived…Maya Angelou passed away recently at the age of 84. I got to know her through the Oprah Winfrey Show and attended her appearance in Montreal. I loved her compassion and bravery. Back then, I took this to heart when she said “We just ought to accept that going through “the change” we become the ‘watchers of the night” (sleepless) and that weight gain was all a part of it”.

Today, I dare to disagree!  Based on what I have learned and experienced personally and professionally, that does not have to be the case. I shared this with a mechanic-minded guy I was coaching on improving his nutrition. “How can you expect to get the desired results from a diesel engine if you fuel it  with unleaded gas?”

Expecting our bodies to perform without nourishing them properly does not make any sense.    Was I tempted to grab some fast food on the fly with moving (AGAIN), this time settling into my new place? Sure, but I knew that by doing that I couldn’t expect to have the energy or concentration I needed.  Know only too well how quickly the fibromyalgia beast can take over.


I am including one of my favourite soups made earlier for the busyness of this week.  It hit the spot for a nourishing quickie.  See below for the recipe.

Another FIT FAST FUN Recipe from Cooper’s Kitchen

Coconut Cream Soup

Coconut Ginger Soup

Serves: 4

Roasted butternut squash soup, made creamy with coconut and spiced with ginger and fragrant cardamom.
  • 1 butternut squash  (May subsititute with combo of carrots, sweet potato and squash)
  • 2 large onions
  • 3 garlic cloves
  • 1 ½ tbsp olive or grapeseed oil
  • Sea Salt
  • 750ml (3¼ cup) vegetable stock
  • ¾ tsp cardamom (or to taste)
  • 3 tsp grated fresh ginger
  • 240ml (1 cup) coconut milk
  1. Preheat oven to 350F
  2. Peel the butternut squash and onions, (sweet potatoes, carrots) cut  into chunks and place in baking dish or on a cookie sheet.
  3. Add in the garlic and vegetable oil, season with salt and mix well.
  4. Roast vegetables in oven for up to 40 minutes until they start to turn brown
  5.  Stir vegetables frequently during roasting so that they cook evenly on all sides.
  6. When vegetables are caramelised switch off the oven and keep warm.
  7. Heat the stock in a pot until it is boiling.
  8. Reduce heat and add the ginger, cardamom and roasted vegetables and simmer for about 8 minutes for flavours combine
  9. Switch off heat and allow soup to cool.
  10. Puree soup in the pot with hand blender.
  11. Then add in coconut milk, mix well and adjust seasoning.
  12. Warm soup thoroughly and garnish with coconut milk and or roasted butternut squash seeds before serving.
Adjust spices to your specific taste.


Bon Appetit!


“Try to be a rainbow in someone’s cloud.”

~Maya Angelou, RIP

how I increased my energy (and you can too)

Volume 1 Issue 7 2014

What a gorgeous weekend of bright sunshine, birthday celebrations for a grandson, and tip-toeing through the tulips in Ottawa. Raising three daughters and having 3 grandgirls having a little grandson is so different.  He loved the flowers but the wheelbarrows were his favourite!

DiDi and me

DiDi and me


Feature Article

While I am now a health coach and understand how to increase my energy and lose weight safely without drastic measures, it wasn’t always that way.

Growing up, I struggled with my weight. I remember how it made me lack  confidence and uncomfortable with what others my age thought of me. Later on, as an adult, allergies, hypoglycemia then fibromyalgia raised their ugly heads.

I finally discovered that the problem wasn’t me. It was a lack of information about the underlying causes. Not one of the diet or nutrition books I read mentioned how I could be sensitive to certain foods.  And that these foods were causing inflammation and even weight loss resistance.

I thought I was eating healthy foods, but what I learned is that some of the foods I was eating were actually viewed as toxins by my body.

I know how frustrating it is to go on a detox diet and be hungry. Want to transform the way you look and think about food?  I am going to show you a way to think about your body and food with delicious recipes that will satisfy your taste  buds. Continue reading

who you are and who you can become

Volume 1 Issue 6 2014

There is empowerment discovering who you are and who you become going through change. You may cringe with a mighty mix of emotions when someone says “You are so courageous” or ” You are so brave”.  Anger, sadness, disbelief, emptiness, fatigue are just some of  the ingredients to discover what brave means.  Feeling anything but brave,  instead scared to death how to manage it all?

To move forward toward healing there will come a moment when you know you wouldn’t ever want to go back. Is it hard ? Hell yes!  Maybe you are asking why this was to be your path when you feel like everyone else is the lucky one and you are all alone with no obvious answers.

Dandelion in clover

What if…….. you looked at it like this?

A child is given a pizza size chocolate chip cookie.   You decide to use this as a teaching tool telling her/him that sharing with friends would be a nice thing to do. Reluctantly they give 1 piece, then 2 then 3 and so on until there is a moderate size left they can easily handle.  Happy faces are smiling all around and lesson learned.

Ok, ok I know they probably kicked up a fuss ’cause they  wanted to eat the whole thing by themselves!  What about using this for yourself as a metaphor  for going through change?  You don’t have to do this alone. Share with someone you trust & build support step by step for living a happier, healthier life  & becoming the YOU you want to be. Makes the task alot less daunting.

(Couldn’t resist posting this recipe after writing that! )

FEATURE ARTICLE                  Another RECIPE from Cooper’s Kitchen (that’s me!)

Gluten free Pizza Crust

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Copyright Your Better Living Coach 2014

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we all have one of these

Without these we would not be on this planet.  Of course, I am talking about our mothers! This past Mother’s Day my Mom also celebrated a birthday. What does my mother say when asked what she would like to do for the day? “Nothing”!  I warned her that if she was leaving it up to me, it would be “game on” for a road trip stopping wherever and whenever.

 Mom & I Me and Mom at the “dam”. 

Mother Nature supplied the gorgeous blue sky and sunshine.  Our stops were numerous.  The first, a favourite spot at the “dam” on the river where our family used to spend a summer Sunday, then the family farmstead(new owners) where she was born.  She had a grand time sharing her memories ( fishing for trout in the brook) and seeing how things had changed, like the pine tree her Dad planted, that now dwarfs the shed.  We even ending up chatting with neighbours she had known since a child.

Bliss farm Fairfax Rd

Brook at Fairfax






The greatest gifts don’t necessarily come from shopping the malls or the internet.

Ending up the day with a nice meal together was the best Mother’s Day/birthday present I could have given her. You see, Mom has fibromyalgia & macular degeneration (legally blind). The opportunity to be out and about on such a gorgeous day was ………….priceless!

I still chuckle thinking about a recent conversation. Talking about doing a detox, I got asked if I had “healed myself” with my blender! Well, yes and no.  That wasn’t the only thing I have done to manage my health. READ MORE here

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RECIPE from Cooper’s Kitchen (that’s me!)

Crispy Skinned Salmon with Gingery Greens  (for 4)